Myths of Life – Identifying and Removing the Myth of Limitation

Rejection is a Myth. Think about this. Someone might fear doing something because they believe they might get rejected. e.g. asking someone for a date, seeking a promotion or asking someone to buy their product or service. Before asking for whatever they want, they do not have it, so even if someone turns them down, they still don’t have it, In reality, nothing has changed.

However, what has the potential for change is the story they attach to the denial of their request. If they ending up saying ‘I am no good, my product is not wanted or I feel embarrassed’, they havecreated this. The Myth of Rejection is another example of our co-creation of our Being with our environment.

Christmas is a celebration which few, it seems, question what is being celebrated.  Anyone who questions the existence of Christmas is often criticised as cynical, Scrooge-like or Humbug. If you ask someone what they are celebrating, they probably look at you incredulously saying ‘But it’s Christmas!’ and go on to mention the religious, family or holiday connotations or simply have no idea how to answer.  Many people at this point say ‘Well, it’s for the children’ as if this justifies them not having an answer.

Unquestioned assumptions surround the existence of Christmas and like most myths are rarely questioned – they simply reduce our ability and responsibility in choosing how we spend our lives.  This is not to say that Christmas can’t be an enjoyable and reflective time of year.  It does mean that if it is blindly responded to with the associated ’should ought or must’ language attached, then we are hoodwinking ourselves into believing we are choosing to life on our terms.  I encourage you to examine your own myths and choose meaningfully in everything you do.

How often do you hear the words ‘She/He did this and I felt….’?  It implies that a person feels a certain way because of someone else’s actions.  What if this was a myth?  What if these simplistic explanations merely trivialise the human experience, reducing understanding of ourselves and our worlds to cause and effect relationships?

I recently saw someone tenaciously hold to their story that a person’s actions resulted in them feeling very angry and upset. Despite much discussion, the person struggled to see things differently.  It was not until they considered that it was not the ‘person’ who caused them upset, but their own anger at continually attracting this type of interaction into their life, that they were able to see what was really going on.

Where in your life are you denying responsibility for your actions by blaming others for how you feel or act?