The Myth of Rejection
Rejection is a Myth. Think about this. Someone might fear doing something because they believe they might get rejected. e.g. asking someone for a date, seeking a promotion or asking someone to buy their product or service. Before asking for whatever they want, they do not have it, so even if someone turns them down, they still don’t have it, In reality, nothing has changed.
However, what has the potential for change is the story they attach to the denial of their request. If they ending up saying ‘I am no good, my product is not wanted or I feel embarrassed’, they havecreated this. The Myth of Rejection is another example of our co-creation of our Being with our environment.
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Written by Clare Mann - Existential Psychotherapist in Sydney Australia
Good reasoning throughout, but I would like to add that the “reasoner”, that is, the person who is doing the reasoning, FEELS that his or her rejection is real, and as such, to some degree their experience of the encounter is very real rejection. The therapeutic response to this feeling is to encourage the person to realize that they may have created this experience; but it must be acknowledged that in reality, they might not have, and the experience might be a real reaction to have been rejected. Therefore, feelings of rejection are warranted and credible.